We hope all our friends and family had a warm and happy Christmas! We certainly did, even though we sure missed you all.
On Christmas Eve we visited a local wine and sprits warehouse just a couple blocks away, OnWine, and shopped for ourselves and for gifts. We were like kids in a candy store. That evening about 7:00 we took Uber to our Portuguese friends Bernardo and Carolina. Bernardo's mom Lígia and siblings Rita and Pedro were there, along with their three happy and well-behaved dogs Lobo, Fred, and Oshi.
Everyone, even Mom, spoke English wonderfully. We were expecting that Bernardo would be the only English speaker, but everyone's command of English made us awfully sheepish about our baby Portuguese. Rita had actually studied a year in Auburn! Yes, Auburn, the little community south of Seattle and just a few miles away from our old place. The whole company was so intelligent and well educated, and we had a great conversation with lots of laughs. We got to ask many questions about Portuguese language and customs too.
Gerrit wanted to express our gratitude and respect to his family for all that Bernardo has done for us (as our real estate agent and friend), so a couple weeks earlier he had begun working on a speech in Portuguese using mostly his own words. He did have to resort to the translator apps a little bit to avoid being completely incomprehensible. It was about a minute long, and he read it from his phone. People laughed at the right spots so he thinks he didn't do too badly.
First we had excellent appetizers of cheeses, Portuguese ham, nuts, fruits, and regional breads. Dinner was delicious, the traditional Christmas Eve baked bacalhau (cod) prepared by Lígia, along with buttery smooth new potatoes and some shredded greens.
Then the family began exchanging gifts, and the language drifted into Portuguese. We felt really honored to be included in such an intimate family experience. They even gave us a gift, a lovely candle in a beautifully glazed pot. We had brought some of Pat's handmade beaded Christmas ornaments, wine, and limoncello for them. After some more sleepy conversation, a little after 1:00 we said fond goodbyes and took Uber home.
We had seen more of another admirable quality of Portuguese culture: the frankness and candor of the people. They say what they think, they disagree readily, but it is always simple or humorous and without rudeness or offence. We've noticed this in many situations. For example, we had brought a couple bottles of wine which we all shared as we sat together when we first arrived. Lígia said simply that Alentejo wine (which we brought) was fine but she preferred Dão, and she explained her opinion sensibly. In the US (or in Britain) you would never disparage wine brought by an unknown guest, you would pretend that it was wonderful or you would simply keep your opinion to yourself. Here it was so refreshing to simply hear how she actually felt. It was completely inoffensive, just a statement of fact. And next time we'll serve her Dão wine and know she actually does like it.
When we brought up how much we liked this Portuguese characteristic (in a very frank and Portuguese manner), Rita said that they thought Americans and Brits sometimes seemed fake. Another simple statement of fact, completely inoffensive, and right on target too. And then again at dinner Rita only took a small bit of bacalhau, saying she didn't like it and making a face. Her mom had prepared it and we are used to being "nice" about something like that, but her mom didn't care. Rita didn't like bacalhau, no big deal.
Another time, someone asked about our Portuguese language learning, and Bernardo said Gerrit was better, that Pat was too lazy. What?? That would be a horrible thing to say in the US, but he was plainly just kidding and said it in such a good-humored way that it didn't even cause a ripple. Everyone was joking and poking fun at each other all night long, gently and inoffensively. They also stroked each others hair, rubbed each others necks, held hands, and clearly displayed their fondness. It seems healthy not to let little things fester, just let them out lightly before they build up pressure. It lets people truly understand each other better too, and the ribbing and disagreement actually brings people closer together in that way.
They also don't say "excuse me" and "sorry" here nearly as much as the Brits and Americans do. In a crowded bar or restaurant, you just work your way between the people (unless you need to actually get someone's attention). Everyone shuffles as necessary, you don't need to apologize your way through. If a store doesn't carry an item you want they aren't "sorry" that they don't have it, they just say no, they don't have it. It really makes those courtesies in the US and Britain seem kind of excessive and foolish.
They're not insensitive boors though. We were laughing at one point about a story Carolina was telling about her mom's miserable sewing and cooking when she was young. She and her siblings were sensitive to their mom's feelings at the time though, and Carolina told the story with context too, so it was all loving and good natured.
The following day, Christmas, we tried to sleep in and failed. Old people just don't do late nights and sleeping in very well. We were sleepy all day, but took a nice drive to
Porto and along the
Douro river to the ocean. It was a spectacularly beautiful day, 20 C (68 F) and sunny with a gentle breeze. Check out the selfie -- it looks like we're in Acapulco. We strolled along the waterfront along with hundreds of other happy holiday-lovers.
Pat found some audio of the clattering storks we saw a couple of weeks ago at the Parque Biológico, which we posted about here. We couldn't capture the audio then, but here is what it sounded like.
On Thursday (today), Boxing Day, Gerrit started digging into getting our stuff stored in Seattle shipped to our new address. It was going fine until he learned that Customs requires two documents with our Portuguese address on them, but those documents currently have our US address and we can't change them until we are officially residents. We have been waiting months for the appointment to confirm our residency, and the process is hopelessly backlogged.
The way around this is to pay full duty on our entire shipment, which could run up to $10,000 or more. Needless to say, it looks like we will just hope for residency appointments soon and wait probably a few months more to get our stuff. Good thing the new home is being sold completely furnished (down to the silverware) and we're quite used to living without our storage stuff by now. Also fortunately, this customs snafu will not affect our home purchase. We'll still be able to move in mid-January if all goes well.
We've had a request for more photos in the blog, a great idea, but that sure didn't pan out this time did it? OK, starting next time more photos, we promise. Sorry.
(As usual, you can click on any photo to enlarge it, scroll through them all, and click outside a photo when you're done. Also, you can click on the bold black underlined phrases to play the audio.)